Tuesday, December 15, 2015

A fun week of extra activities

On Monday, Grandma had a great idea to take Kevin to see the Peanuts (Charlie Brown & Snoopy) movie that was playing in the theater. This was Kevin's third time going to see a movie in the theater. He was a little apprehensive about going into the theater but once the actual movie began (after all the previews) and the Peanuts song began to play, Kevin smiled and enjoyed the show. There were only a couple other people in the theater which was good because Kevin was chuckling it up and I didn't feel a need to "shush" him since he was completely enjoying himself. Grandma and I enjoyed it too - especially watching Kevin enjoy it!




It's just two weeks before Christmas and the weather is still very pleasant. Grandma had another good idea to go to the zoo while she was here for her Wednesday visit. 



Another fun activity was a very special dance performance (that included loud music and lots of well deserved clapping) that Kevin also handled very well. I recently re-connected with an old friend who I met when her daughter and Kevin were babies. We had a connection because both our kids have cerebral palsy. Her daughter participates in a dance group facilitated through our local children's hospital. The kids that dance have all levels of abilities and the physical therapist that leads the group has a lot of energy and is very enthusiastic. Kevin and I went to their Christmas show and needless to say it was very inspiring to watch these determined and joyful kids perform to the best of their ability. So happy we had an opportunity to see them perform.



On Friday, after a very long day of doctor appointments, we met Jon's brother and family to see the Christmas lights at Stan Hywet Hall & Gardens, which brightened our day completely!










And on Saturday, Kevin's Communion celebration continued with a visit from my Aunt and Uncle from Pittsburgh.




Monday, December 14, 2015

Zoo Visits 2015

Cousin Ethan


Aunt Sarah & Cousin Ethan


Ms. Louise






Fall 2015 - Favorite Photos


S for Super Sunflowers



Favorite Neighbor

 Grandee & Pap's Hello/Goodbye Window

 A Great Aunt Neat

Great Grandma Como & Grandee

 Pap



Sunday, December 6, 2015

FHC Revisit November 16 & 17, 2015

Kevin is 11 years old and we had our 11th visit with The Family Hope Center in Norristown, Pennsylvania. Our last revisit was one year ago but we did make a quick trip to FHC in the spring for the Molli Suit. Despite all the wonderful stories I have shared about Kevin, especially these last 6 months, I knew it wasn’t enough to make any significant changes on the Integrative and Developmental Progression Chart. However Kevin did make 15 qualitative changes: 4 changes in Emotional/Social; 2 changes in Manual; 2 changes in Speech; 2 changes in Locomotion/Mobility; 1 change in Sensation/Tactility; 3 in Hearing/Understanding; and 1 change in Seeing. I don’t mind hearing the qualitative changes but next time they can skip the numbers and percentage portion of the chart. It just makes me feel sad. Ultimately that is what we want for Kevin, to gain neurological growth, and when I hear that he hasn’t it makes me lose sight of all the positive changes we have seen in him. 

On day one of the revisit, Kevin is evaluated to see how much neurological growth he has gained since our last visit. I have written about this before - how Kevin is so inconsistent with his answers. Sometimes Kevin looks at the right answer and points to the wrong answer. Sometimes he gets it right and sometimes totally wrong when we know he knows it. So at one point during the evaluation the team member was testing him on spatial concepts (under, on, next to, etc). We would cover Kevin’s eyes, put a block under the desk and say, Kevin can you get the block under the desk - Kevin would do nothing or look somewhere else. Then we tried putting the block under Dad’s chair - that didn’t work either. Next we tried using one of Kevin’s toys - no better responses from Kevin. Then I said, let’s try it one more time with his apple snack. Kevin, can you get your apple snack under the desk - immediately Kevin got to eat some apple. Kevin can you get your apple snack next to Dad’s chair - Kevin immediately got to eat some more apple pieces. He got it right every time. So Kevin was basically was just bored and it wasn’t until it benefitted himself in some way that he would cooperate. 

After day one of the revisit, I was beginning to think I was going to regret making this trip. I felt like everything was going to stay the same with the program even though we have been doing basically the same program (lots of crawling and creeping) for years and Kevin still doesn’t make any significant changes on the chart. I want to say that the program does work and I would still recommend it to everyone. Kevin wouldn’t be where he is today without it and I have seen it work on so many other kids on the program. But Kevin just seems to be stuck and is one of the challenging cases. On day two of the revisit, we arrived and the team passed out our new folders which hold a brief overview of our new objectives and programs to continue to achieve neurological wellness in Kevin. The rest of the day, we meet with each team member and receive an individualized program to help meet our new objectives and goals for Kevin. I took one look at our “new” objectives and programs and I thought - yep looks exactly the same as last time and the time before that and the time before that. But as all the families were breaking up to meet with the individual team members - one of the team members came up to us and said “We are going to turn you world upside down!” And I replied “GOOD, that’s why we are here!.” They explained to us that after Kevin’s evaluation and reading my (30 page) report with all the wonderful and insightful stories (especially the screwdriver story), Matthew and Carol (the married couple that run FHC) were discussing Kevin at home and decided to change the plan. So our team member handed us a NEW Objectives and Programs sheet. Basically switching Kevin’s Social Program with his Physical Program. And they told us no crawling and creeping this term. This doesn’t mean that Kevin has achieved all the benefits received from crawling and creeping - it just means that they feel it is more important for us to focus on Developing Standards and Responsibilities rather than all the time we spend during our day crawling and creeping. Now having said that, of course when we actually met with Matthew, the team member for our Physical program, he did encourage us to do a very small amount of crawling and creeping to help integrate the reflexes we will continue to do. But it is not a high priority to our day. Whereas before I always felt like we couldn’t spend time on anything else until we completed the crawling and creeping and by then I was exhausted mentally and physically. I have always felt we are near crisis mode regarding Kevin’s digestion and walking issues so I have always focused all my energy and attention on these programs. Our intellectual/social program was at the bottom of our daily list, not to mention mundane. I am referring to the sequence cards, numicon, etc. - the things we have done over and over again. Kevin still has a love of books and being read to on a wide range of subjects. Grandma uses the felt board with stories every week with Kevin. You should see some of the felt board pieces she creates to go along with the stories - they are very professional looking. 

We have seen many positive changes in Kevin this year that bring big smiles to this proud Mama. I think the biggest one is his verbal sounds including the word “bye” that has not discontinued as it has in the past. I’m not sure what these changes are due to - the protocol that we started in January, his Mollii Suit that began again in May and again in September, the 5 visits with Dr. Nemeh beginning in February of this year, or other aspects of our program - it is most likely that they are all interconnected and helping Kevin make progress. Some of our main concerns continue to be Kevin’s walking regarding his left foot and talking. Kevin’s walking was looking slightly better during the months of August, September, and October. But for some reason the month of November it regressed. I had video to compare and see these positive and negative changes during these months. Physiologically, Kevin has had some very good changes. He has gained 5 pounds in a year! This is a record! His legs look thicker too. I think with this new protocol he is on it is helping him to finally absorb all those good nutrients he eats every day. Kevin has been on the protocol for 10 months. We have also seen improvements with less gulping, less bloating and gas, and less episodes of mucous vomiting (around the new moon every month). I also began giving Kevin regular enemas with the protocol and this has relieved some very unpleasant digestion and elimination issues we have been dealing with for many years. In fact, Kevin is now sitting on the toilet after he receives the enema which makes my job even easier - and is one small step forward. Ok, I know you may not want to read about that but the gains in this area will help Kevin on his healing journey. And possibly once we can truly get Kevin physiologically well maybe that will be when he starts to make some significant changes on the chart. 

Speaking of physiological gains - we were noticing that Kevin was not having any allergy outbreaks when we were with my family. We weren’t exactly sure if this was due to Kevin or because his cousins are getting older and everyone is more careful around Kevin. But then it was confirmed when visiting a friend’s house recently, her daughter came home and touched Kevin (hands, hug, etc) and later realized she had eaten almonds with her hands just before entering the house and touching Kevin. Before, this would definitely have caused Kevin to have an outbreak on his skin. So the story continues…on Wednesday while we were still in Philly before we came in for Kevin’s last allergy clearing with Matthew, we were eating breakfast in the hotel lobby. Jon had a bagel and put peanut butter on it. I remember thinking about telling him to be careful - but I thought he knows, he’s an adult, I don’t need to tell him. Jon led Kevin back to the room after we were done eating, when I got back to the room I noticed Kevin had a big welt on the top of his left hand. We immediately knew it was from the peanut butter Jon had eaten - he probably had a trace of it on his hands when he touched Kevin’s hands. So this was typical of what it has been like when Kevin is around people that eat something he is allergic to - but not as of late. I wasn’t too surprised that he broke out with peanut butter knowing that peanuts and almonds are two different categories. But there’s more…then we arrived for Kevin’s last allergy clearing with Matthew and told him this whole story. He asked if he could test actual peanut butter on Kevin, we said yes, but I wasn’t sure why because he had just been exposed a few hours prior and still had a small welt on his hand to prove it. Matthew tested organic peanut butter and organic almond butter on Kevin’s hand and there was no reaction. Knowing organic peanut butter is much different from the peanut butter the hotel offered. I’m still not brave enough to have Kevin consume nuts or eggs even though Matthew clears him of these items. But there is progress if he is not reacting to it by touch. Maybe after being on the protocol a little longer and another allergy clearing - maybe I’ll be ready to try it with Kevin - we’ll see at our next revisit.

After meeting with the medical doctor and nutritionist, we are adding one new supplement to Kevin’s excellent nutrition and supplement program. It is called Liquid Tranquility and it contains GABA (gamma-aminobutyric acid) and L-theanine. Both of these amino acids help boost the brain and can help to facilitate language in nonverbal children. They also help reduce other behavior traits associated with autism - like stimming. Kevin has been less interested in ceiling fans, especially when around family but he still uses a spoon or pen to flip. 

The Physiological Program will continue to include the Passive Coordinated Breathing Program - adding more time wearing the vest to help Kevin to breathe with good rhythm and deliver more oxygen to his brain. We also will continue using the Mild Hyperbaric Therapy Program for a couple hours a day and Passive Deep Breathing Program - Reflex Bags, several times a day.

The Sensory Program will include the Olfactory and Tactile programs. We also plan to have an fifth session with the Solisten headphones in January. This is a 2 hour program for 13 days to help with language.

Kevin’s NEW Social/Learning Program is focused solely on Developing Standards and Responsibilities Program. We are essentially creating opportunities for Kevin to think and problem solve for himself. We have to slow down everything we do during our day (self care, household chores, etc) so Kevin can help and do these actions himself. Initially we will give him partial actions so he joins in and slowly back off as he takes more initiative. This is going to take some re-training my brain. I have been accustomed to doing most things for Kevin so that we had the time we needed to do program and sometimes you lose sight of priorities in life. I am very excited about the progress Kevin will make in this area. He is willing and able (needing some support in situations that require left hand/arm support). We will practice activities of daily living every day to create independence and improve the quality of the task. We hope that besides doing more for himself and becoming a problem solver he will also develop doing more for others to become more aware of others and less focused on self. 

Kevin’s physical program is last on our list of things to do during our day. But we will try to accomplish two daily sessions of Reflex Integration: Hand Supporting; Grasp; Babkin; Head Righting; Babinski; Tendon Guard; Galant; Perez and if time allows a very short 50 meters of Crawling and Creeping after reflexes to help integrate. Kevin will also continue to wear the Mollii Suit for an hour, three times a week while walking. The control unit needed some more tweaking to ensure Kevin is getting the full benefit. We also will add a Tens unit for more support in this area. 

Kevin’s walking doesn’t seem to bother him as much as it bothers us. Some people that see him think his walking looks ok for the most part and usually comment on how good it looks. But if you would see what his foot actually looks like barefoot - you would change your mind. I need some reinforcement that it is ok for Kevin to be walking around as much as he does and it is not hurtful to him in the moment (which I don’t think it is) but more importantly, that it is not causing further damage or injury. And ultimately we hope it will be corrected so that one day he can walk the distance he wants to walk. Everyone is in agreement that we need to inquire about AFO braces or something similar for Kevin. This will not be a perfect solution. It will prevent his left foot from turning in but it will most likely then cause him to walk on his toes or the ball part of his foot because his achilles heel is so tight he won’t have the flexibility to get his heel down. We have an upcoming appointment with a local orthopedic doctor to get his opinion. FHC is also recommending Dr. Nuzzo, a pediatric orthopedic in New Jersey. He created a procedure some FHC kids have needed and had success with called SPML (Selective Percutaneous Myofascial Lengthening). I found some information on the internet to help explain it. Percutaneous means using very small skin incisions, so small that stitches are not needed. This would be an outpatient surgery, the procedure involves releasing tight bands of tendon. When the myofascial is cut, the muscle under it can easily stretch and lengthen. www.pediatric-orthopedics.com This is something we will research and consider but it sounds hopeful in correcting the tightness Kevin has in his left heel area. We hope to meet with Dr. Nuzzo for a consultation on our next visit to the Philadelphia area.


Now that Thanksgiving and Kevin’s First Communion is over, I can focus on our new program and the positive changes that we will see in Kevin, I am excited! I hope re-training my brain and how we do things around the house happens quickly. I also hope to keep our wonderful helpers that come each day of the week to be a part of Kevin’s new program and some of the old stuff they are used to doing with Kevin. We plan to continue our visits with Dr. Nemeh every couple months or as needed because I know these visits are a very important part of Kevin’s healing journey. This Friday, December 11 will be a very busy day for us, we have our first appointment with the local Orthopedic doctor and later in the day our appointment with Dr. Nemeh. Please keep Kevin in your prayers as we enter the medical world and hope that everyone involved will do their best and have Kevin’s best interest at heart as we continue along his healing journey. Thank You and God Bless you for reading this entire post! 

Monday, November 30, 2015

A Very Special First Communion

To say that Kevin’s First Communion on Thanksgiving day was very special doesn’t even begin to describe this blessed day for Kevin and our family. We could feel the love of everyone that was with us at the Mass, everyone that was with us in spirit, and most of all the love of Jesus’ presence with Kevin and all of us. We are especially grateful to Father Jim for approaching us about Kevin making his First Communion, for his compassion and understanding, and for making this day with all who participated and celebrated in the Mass (3 Priests and the Choir!) so personable and memorable to us. Our out of town family was so impressed with our IHM family and how you embrace Kevin and make us feel loved and accepted as a full member of our church. Kevin has the title “special needs” associated with him, meaning “different from what is usual” but our family and friends make him feel special as in “greater or better”. Kevin’s special needs require us to adapt our life and sometimes it feels as if we miss out on “normal” life experiences but here at IHM and especially for Kevin’s First Communion the people of IHM show their love of Jesus by surrounding our family with so much love and support that “my cup runneth over”. It was very meaningful to us to see so many who have been a part of Kevin’s journey celebrate this day with us. Some of you prayed for Kevin, many of you came to our home to help with Kevin’s program, some of you still come to help with Kevin’s home program, some of you helped prepare food for Kevin, some of you built crazy devices to help with Kevin’s healing, some of you helped us financially on Kevin’s healing journey, some of you made Christmas time extra special for us, some of you walked in our door exactly when we needed you, some of you are new friends that will share the next stage of our journey, and some of you only know us from sitting in the front pew. We thank you all for showing us so much kindness over Kevin’s 11 years and for always supporting us with your love and prayers of hope. God has always provided for our family by surrounding us with faith filled friends and family. 

I wanted to add a few more things I didn’t mention above.

The Gospel reading for Thanksgiving day was from the Book of Luke when Mary visits Elizabeth and Mary’s Psalm of Praise, the Magnificat. The theme of joy and praise were very appropriate on this blessed day. 
“My soul proclaims the greatness of the Lord; my spirit rejoices in God my savior for he has looked upon his lowly servant.” 

This was easily one of the top favorite days of my life. There were so many times during the Mass that I was struggling with the tears of love that were filling my eyes. I loved watching Kevin and his cousins bring up the offertory gifts during the Mass. At the conclusion of the Mass, our church family gave Kevin the most loving and extended applause - and my tears spilled - and the tears still come to my eyes every time I think of it. 









Saturday, November 21, 2015

First Communion on Thanksgiving Day

“Take this, all of you, and eat it, for this is My Body, which will be given up for you”

Kevin will be receiving Jesus in his First Holy Communion on Thanksgiving Day. 

I am so thankful that our Pastor approached me about Kevin making his First Communion. We had occasionally briefly discussed it but one obstacle was Kevin’s gluten allergy and consuming the host. We searched and found a gluten-free host that is acceptable for Kevin. I was also uncertain what was expected on the intellectual and spiritual side of it. Father told me that for Kevin, he needs to understand that receiving the Eucharist is not the same as eating regular food. I sometimes feel Kevin is much more aware of Jesus’ presence than I am during the Mass. To help prepare Kevin for his special day, I made a book explaining what it means to receive Communion and how to do this in his own way. We also practiced taking and eating the unconsecrated host so he knows what to expect. 

Father Jim thought maybe we could do it on Kevin’s birthday but we didn’t have enough time to prepare and so he mentioned Thanksgiving as a possibility. It has been so uplifting to have this exciting and blessed milestone to look forward to. It was a real boost for me as we approached Kevin’s birthday this year. Thanksgiving is a very opportune time because our entire family can be here to celebrate with us. The word Eucharist means Thanksgiving so it seems very appropriate for this special day. 

I was given so many signs that this was the right time for Kevin. One small sign was that Thanksgiving falls on the 26th this year. You may know that 26 is a number that continually appears as a special day for me. I also have to mention that it is Kevin’s Great Grandma’s 91st Birthday that day too. This is my Grandma that used to visit us every Thanksgiving when I was growing up. 

Like many people, Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. There are no expectations with gifts - it is simply just sharing a meal with people we love and giving thanks for it all. It is also the one holiday that my family comes to celebrate at our house and I love having them visit us. This year the entire G Family will be here - so that means 14 people in our house from Wednesday through Saturday - Kevin and I will love every minute of it! 

I was reflecting back on when and how Thanksgiving became my favorite holiday. I have wonderful memories of Thanksgiving when I was growing up and my Grandparents coming to visit us. After I was married and before Kevin was born, I always chose to work on Thanksgiving so that I could have Christmas off to travel to be with family - so it wasn’t really my favorite holiday at that time. I think it had to be Kevin’s second Thanksgiving. We had had our first visit to The Institutes about two months before and one of the major things that changed right away for us was that Kevin was finally eating - oh Kevin’s eating was such a challenge before that - we were still discovering all his allergies, he was underweight, and a few other unpleasant memories. But after that first Institutes visit he started eating like a champ and I remember being so thrilled that he could eat our Thanksgiving meal - pureed. This is one of the things I still love about this holiday because Kevin doesn’t need a separate meal he can eat our Thanksgiving meal…and now Kevin also gets to partake in the Eucharist too!

Not long after we began discussing Kevin’s First Communion, I read this reflection on September 29 in the book by Sarah Young called Jesus Calling or as we like to refer to it as - The Little Orange Book
“I desire to be your closest Friend, yet I am also your sovereign Lord. I created your brain with capacity to know Me as Friend and Lord simultaneously. The human mind is the pinnacle of My creation, but so few use it for its primary purpose - knowing Me. I communicate continually through My Spirit, My Word, and My creation. Only humans are capable of receiving Me and responding to My Presence. You are indeed fearfully and wonderfully made!”
Those are the same exact words “fearfully and wonderfully made” I used to describe Kevin when reflecting on the Healing Mass that we went to only a week before Father Jim approached me. This reflection first caught my attention because it talked about the brain and since Kevin has brain damage due to an in utero stroke, I was paying close attention to what the reflection was saying and I remember thinking - the rest of us clutter our brains with needless worry and thoughts - but not Kevin. I have no doubt that Jesus is Kevin's Friend and now he will get to receive Him - what a gift!

RubberDucks and Cavaliers


We were finally brave enough to take Kevin to his first Minor League Baseball game. Over the summer we were given free tickets through Summit DD so we thought it was worth a try. I wouldn’t say he was excited to be there but I was very surprised that the sounds and stimulation didn’t seem to bother him - he didn’t even need to wear the noise canceling headphones.


On October 30, Kevin went to his first NBA game. Jon’s new boss invited us to the Cavs home opener in a loge. I thought this would be a better option bringing Kevin with us, not being sure if he would be able to tolerate the noise - but the loge was open and not a place to escape from the sounds and stimulation. Kevin did need to wear the noise canceling headphones during the game. He seemed to enjoy watching people and the lights. And after he had his favorite snack his energy perked up and he was smiling and interacting with the other guests - which helped me relax and enjoy myself.



And since I am talking about tolerating noise and stimulation - I’ll mention here that Kevin is tolerating clapping in church so much better - just this month as a matter of fact. He doesn’t grab my hands to put over his ears - he hardly startles - lets hope this new tolerance sticks.